Building An Elegant Mind 👑

Everyone on Instagram is trying to step into their feminine energy, become classy, be effortlessly elegant… ✨

But we all know these things aren’t tangible. You can’t buy your way into them. 🤑

No Birkin bag, no Dior lip gloss, no old-money wardrobe can buy class. It all comes from the inside and radiates outwards. 🔆

That’s why building an elegant mind is THE KEY to radiating that quiet confidence energy we all desire.

Here are five ways you can do just that:

1. Observe, don’t absorb🔭

Energy transfer is real. When someone is anxious before an exam or annoyed in a long line at the post office - you feel it. If you’re not self-aware, that energy can easily transfer onto you.

And before you know it you will find yourself biting your fingernails or puffing and rolling your eyes at a clerk.

Be aware of other people and understand that you don’t have to take on whatever negativity they’re carrying with themselves. You can see it, you can feel it for a bit, but make a conscious decision not to engage with it.

2. Stay gracious when things are out of your control 🎮

The bus is late. The street is too crowded. The wi-fi cut off in the middle of your Zoom. They are out of burger patties at your favorite burger place.

Things like these happen all. the. time.

There is literally no point in stressing out when things are out of your control. Especially the small day-to-day stuff.

Can you do anything about it? No? Then take a step back, look at the bigger picture, say something polite and delulu yourself into thinking that there must be a reason for it.

It’s small stuff like that that builds up and eventually creates who you are and how others perceive you.

3. Know your manners ⚜️

Know your manners, and be polite to everyone you cross paths with. BUT know your boundaries and learn to recognize if someone is crossing them.

4. Be a good conversationalist 🗣️

Practice articulating your thoughts clearly and concisely in conversations and writing. Practice the art of active listening, focusing on understanding the speaker’s message fully before responding. Before speaking - think.

5. Learn to speak encouragingly and positively to others🤗

You know those people that leave you feeling light and joyful after a conversation with them? Be that person.

Even a simple, genuine compliment goes a looooong way.

Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you, absorb their way of being, learn from them and learn to be kinder to yourself so you can eventually start being truly kind to others.

That’s all I have for you today.

Sending you hugs until the next Thursday,

Your Glowing Bestie 💖