3 major lies about confidence

Everyone seems to be raving about confidence and self-love these days, so I thought: You know what? Let me add my two cents. 🤭

Confidence is such a common word yet so mysterious. 🔮

It’s not a physical thing, not even a clear concept. I believe the best word to describe it would be energy.

Confident people seem to carry this incredible aura wherever they go, making a room a better place when they step into it.

✨ They don’t seek attention, but you are drawn to them regardless.

✨ They move and talk as if they are comfortable with who they are.

✨ You can really tell their glow comes from the inside out.

Sounds so perfect and unattainable doesn’t it? Well, it doesn’t have to be.

Let’s break down three major lies about confidence.

1. Confident people always feel confident☀️

No, no, no! Every single person experiences moments of doubt and insecurity.

Even the people who preach about confidence and the most successful people you can think of sometimes sit at the end of their bed and think to themselves:

What the f am I supposed to do now? Can I do this? Am I built for this? 😖

They can also be in the middle of a crowded room and feel lonely. It is not an experience unique to you.

What makes them different is that they accept those feelings and decide to manage them.

When experiencing doubt and insecurity the key step is not to let yourself go down the rabbit hole of negative thoughts. 📝

What you think and how you talk to yourself determines how you act and talk to others.

And all of that affects how you come across.

Taking the time to work out your triggers, reprogram your negative way of thinking and being honest with yourself is what actually skyrockets your confidence. 🚀

2. Being loud and extroverted = confidence📣

This quote is my Roman Empire, for real:

🚨 Confident people are not desperate for the validation of others! 🚨

Understanding this is such a game changer for two reasons:

1. Suddenly you are able to see the insecurity in all of those loud people that make you uncomfortable. 🗣️

Truly confident people will never make you feel less then, make slight mocking comments or make you feel like you need to be like them.

When someone can’t survive 5 minutes without being the centre of attention - run girlie run. It’s giving… insecurity 🏃

That is not to say that the people who are the life of the party are all insecure. Obviously, no. They are shining in their own light and we should let them be.

2. It allows you to be confident in your own way ✨

Quiet girlies, loud girlies, art girlies, yoga girlies, science girlies, baker girlies, mob wife vibe girlies… we can all be confident in own our unique way. 

Actually, embracing who you are is what makes you confident!

You can be that magnetic girl just the way you are. Well, maybe not exactly the way you are (bc we want to build up your confidence obviously), but definitely without pretending to be someone you’re not. ✨

If you’re a quiet girlie, embrace that.

If you’re an extroverted girlie, the same goes to you.

Either way, true confidence doesn't need to be flaunted or announced - it's quietly evident in your demeanor and actions. 🧍‍♂️

You’ll attract the right people and opportunities by being your true self.

3. It’s a personality trait you have to be born with👶

Definitely not. We could view confidence as a skill.

That means it can be acquired, developed and improved over time, just like any other skill. 🛠️

You can and should take proactive steps to enhance your confidence levels, instead of seeing it as an innate trait beyond your control.

Wanna get some tips and tricks on how to actually do it? Stay tuned for next Thursday babe. 😉

Stay glowing and growing,

Your Glowing Bestie ❤️💫